How to Feel More Appreciated at Work: Leading by Example

Statistics show that two out of three professionals do not always feel appreciated at work. Feeling valued is a fundamental human need; a lack of it leads to demotivation and the feeling of being unseen. While you cannot force others to show gratitude, you can influence the culture of your team. If you are wondering how to feel more appreciated at work, the answer often lies in taking the initiative yourself.

The Reciprocity of Appreciation

Appreciation is not a one-way street. In my experience as a leadership coach, I often see that the most respected managers are those who actively recognize the value in others. Showing gratitude is as fulfilling as receiving it. It strengthens professional relationships and builds a foundation of trust.

By leading with appreciation, you set a standard. When you make it a habit to acknowledge the contributions of your peers or direct reports, you create an environment where recognition becomes the norm rather than the exception.

A Practical Challenge for Leaders

Gratitude does not always have to be spontaneous to be effective. What matters is that it is genuine. I challenge you to express sincere appreciation to three colleagues over the next ten days. This could be a manager, a direct report, or a peer from a different department.

To help you identify these moments of value, consider the following questions:

1. Exceeding Expectations: Who recently went above and beyond their role to support you? How did their contribution impact your workload or stress levels?
2. Character Traits: Which colleague possesses a positive trait, such as patience or analytical sharpness, that you value? Share why you appreciate that specific quality.
3. Culture and Impact: Who has made a positive impact on the team culture lately? What was the tangible result of their attitude?
4. Growth and Advice: Who offered valuable insights that helped you progress on a project? Acknowledge how their advice contributed to the final result.

Taking Control of Your Professional Environment

Waiting for appreciation can lead to frustration and a sense of powerlessness. Taking the lead in recognizing others is a form of personal leadership. It shifts the focus from what you are lacking to what you can contribute to the professional climate.

If you find that despite your efforts, the lack of recognition is structural, it might be time to look at your leadership style or the dynamics within your team. My management training programs are designed to help new managers navigate these exact challenges, moving from pleasing behavior to authentic and impactful leadership.

The more you integrate appreciation into your daily routine, the more likely it is to return to you. It is a strategic way to build a culture where everyone feels seen and motivated.

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