Dear fellow-perfectionists: it’s not a strength, it’s a way of seeking approval.
In job interviews, people often humblebrag about their biggest weakness being perfectionism. It sounds like a hidden strength, doesn’t it?
Only, it’s not.
We tell ourselves, “I care a lot about my work. When I do something, I want it done right!”.
But deep down, there is small voice saying, “If I don’t do everything perfectly, people won’t value me. I feel like my worth depends on how flawless my work is. I’m scared of making mistakes—what if they stop respecting or liking me?”.
It’s great to work hard and aim for high quality. Those are good things.
But when perfectionism takes over, it can lead to stress, anxiety and burnout. Research shows that perfectionism can actually make it harder to reach our goals.
As leaders, we might notice team members who push themselves too hard, striving for impossible standards. At first glance, we might think, “Great! This person delivers quality.” But in the long run, it’s not good for them or the team because it’s not sustainable.
We can help by encouraging them to focus on progress, not perfection, and by reminding them that mistakes are part of learning.
So, how to find the line between doing good work and falling into perfectionism?
- Set high goals without making them impossible or taking over our lives.
- Focus on making progress instead of being perfect.
- Ask yourself, “Is what I’m doing really making my work better, or am I stuck on tiny details that don’t add much value?”.
As Tony Robbins says, “perfectionism is the lowest possible standard – because it’s impossible to attain”.
Mistakes are part of learning. They’re not signs that you’re not good enough but chances to grow and improve.