Have you ever watched a colleague get promoted to team lead, only to see them change?
They start off grounded, empathetic, and fair. Then, slowly, that openness starts to fade. They seem less interested in feedback. More impulsive. And the empathy? It’s like it vanished.
Sound familiar? This change isn’t unique—it’s a trap nearly every leader risks falling into.
This is the 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗱𝗼𝘅, a term coined by psychologist Dacher Keltner.
And now it gets interest: it doesn’t just impact “other leaders.” 𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪, 𝙩𝙤𝙤.
The Power Paradox concept explains how, as leaders gain power, they often lose the very qualities that like respect and trust that led them to power. Keltner’s research shows that power affects the brain, triggering dopamine and sparking a “high” that can become addictive.
While it feels great, it also blunts social awareness, turning focus inward and making self-serving decisions feel “right.”
If you’re a leader, don’t assume you’re immune— 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 is the key to avoiding this trap.
𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗴𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁 𝗶𝘁:
- 𝗣𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗥𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆: Empathy fades fast with power. Keep listening, and make a habit of asking your team what they really need. Adopt a regular ‘Loving/Kindness’ meditation practice to increase empathy.
- 𝗦𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗛𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸: Power can make people reluctant to be honest. Show your team that you genuinely value their insights, not just their agreement.
- 𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗚𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱: Real leadership is about serving others. Focus on the team’s success and growth, not just your own.
- 𝗣𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗕𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 Power drives impulsive decisions. Before you make a call, take a breath. Ask yourself: who does this really serve?
The Power Paradox is real, and it can sneak up on anyone. Stay aware, and protect the qualities that make you a true leader.
𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘂𝗽. ⬆
