You’re about to walk into a performance review with a team member, knowing you have to deliver some tough feedback.
Your chest tightens, your breath becomes shallow, and your mind races with worst-case scenarios.
Sound familiar?
This kind of physical reaction is a natural response to stress, but it can also be a sign of a deeper issue: closing your heart to protect yourself.
We’ve all been hurt or disappointed in life, which may cause our hearts to close. When we close our hearts, we not only shut out pain but also joy, love, and connection.
This automatic defense mechanism, designed to protect us from physical threats, often leaves us feeling isolated and disconnected at work.
Living with an open heart, no matter what life throws at us, is challenging but highly rewarding. I know it sounds like a motivational poster, but let’s get practical.
Consider those moments right before difficult conversations or when receiving unexpected critical feedback.
The instinct to protect yourself causes physical constriction, especially around your chest.
You tense up, your breath becomes shallow, and your mind starts to close off, too.
Your mind and body are interconnected: the more you tense up, the more your mind focuses on perceived threats, the less connection you feel to others, the more your chest feels constricted.
Try this: each time you feel your chest tighten, consciously relax it.
Notice how often this happens throughout your day.
Slow your breathing and relax your entire body. This helps you stay calm and keeps your mind open.
When you’re open, you can connect more deeply with others. People will notice your openness and respond in kind, creating a ripple effect.
Take a deep breath, relax your chest, and embrace the day with an open heart. The rewards are immense.
The more you open up, the more the world opens up to you.
❤️