Remember those 30-minute one-on-one meetings that felt more like a cozy chat than a productive meeting? We laughed, we talked, but often missed the key points.
It turns out, most managers, myself included, learned to conduct effective 1:1s more through slow experience than quick training.
Good 1:1s meet both the work and personal needs of your team.
Here’s how to make yours better:
1. ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ธ-๐ถ๐ป ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ฒ๐น๐น-๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด: Be genuinely curious and caring about how your direct reports are doing. Example questions: “How did you feel this week?” “What was your best moment?” “How has your week been?”
2. ๐จ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐๐ผ๐ผ๐น ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ญ:๐ญ๐: Tools like Asana, Jira, or even Google Sheets are great to track your meetings. Both you and your team member should add updates and agenda points, and review those, before the meeting.
3. ๐๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฝ ๐ฎ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ด๐๐น๐ฎ๐ฟ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐บ๐ฎ๐: Follow a set agenda. Cover open topics, action items, blockers, questions and successes. Save your valuable meeting time for discussion – you can share regular updates through the online tool.
4. ๐ฃ๐๐ป๐ฐ๐๐๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐: Starting on time and avoiding cancellations shows respect. It signals to your team you value their time.
5. ๐๐ผ๐น๐น๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฝ: If you promise to take an action, update your team on the progress. Itโs a great way to build trust. Ask the same from your team.
6. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด: For leaders, information is gold. The leader that listens well has a big advantage. Listening also makes your team feel heard and cared about. (We all overestimate our ability to listen.)
7. ๐๐๐ธ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ณ๐น๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐พ๐๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐: Encourage them to think and reflect about their week. Ask about highlights and challenges. Instead of giving your ideal solution right away, ask them what they think first. This supports growth and learning.
Using these tips, you can turn 1:1s from simple chats into powerful tools for growth and success.
Freeing Up More Time For The Things That Matter – Prioritizing Your Tasks
“Thereโs never enough time in the day! What can I do about this?โ ๐ In our professional lives, urgent tasks and looming deadlines can leave us feeling stretched thin and stressed, draining our energy and creating anxiety.
This challenge echoes through the experiences of many professionals I’ve connected with recently. Especially in dynamic and high-pressure industries, the struggle to find time for what truly matters is real.
We prioritize the urgent over the important.
The price we pay? We neglect investing in ourselves. We constantly put out fires, and donโt get to doing those things that prevent fires from breaking out or prepare us best for future opportunities.
โถ Enter the Important vs Urgent (โEisenhowerโ) matrix, a game-changer for those shifting from a reactive to a strategic approach.
Saying no to or delegating urgent but not important tasks might feel counterintuitive initially, but frees up precious time for activities that actually move the needle for you โ whether itโs learning about new technologies, staying up to date on case law, or following that leadership, mindfulness or communication training.
The template below can help you reprioritize your time and energy. โก
And when you freed up that time, how can you be the most effective? Tip #1: Avoid distractions.
The constant need to respond immediately to messages and emails hijacks productivity and creates stress. Did you know it takes an average of 23 minutes to refocus after a distraction?
Scheduling uninterrupted time for your important work is a huge productivity booster. Here are 3 tips:
ยทย ย ย ย ย ย Try setting your OOO to โFocussed work time โ call for emergenciesโ for an hour daily, and turn off Teams. ๐คซ
ยทย ย ย ย ย ย Use the ‘Pomodoro technique’ (named after a pomodoro kitchen timer): 25 minutes of focused work, 5-minute break, repeat 3-4 times. ๐
ยทย ย ย ย ย ย Turn your phone’s messaging notifications off and put it out of sight. ๐ต
Freeing up this time can make a big impact over time: freeing up 2 hours for important work per week translates to around 100 hours per year.ย
- See ‘Free Downloads‘ for the Eisenhower Matrix PDF.

The Many Benefits of Finding Your Purpose
โA study found a 15% (!) drop in the risk of dying over the next decade for people finding their purpose, regardless of age.โ
What?!
Raise your hand if you ever subtly rolled your eyes at the mentioning of “finding your purpose ๐ซ”? I get it โ it can sound like part of a motivational YouTube video.
If youโre like me, youโd rather trust data and research than grandiose terms. No crystal-balls magic, just empirically proven benefits. ๐ผ
Well, the research paints a compelling picture: knowing and living your life purpose isn’t just warm and fuzzy; it’s the secret sauce for success.
Here are some of the amazing benefits (sources provided below), accessible for everyone:
๐ช A long-term study found that making a significant step towards finding your purpose caused a 15% drop in the risk of dying over the next decade.
๐ More happiness, stronger relationships, better sleep, and mental health.
๐ฐ Having a sense of purpose predicts greater income and net worth.
๐ And it’s not just personal โ purpose is a key ingredient to exceptional leadership.
โฌ For companies, aligning individual and organizational purpose brings a ton of benefits, from a fourfold boost in engagement to a twofold increase in employee retention.
So many advantages, whatโs the catch? Do you need to save the whales to reap the benefits? Win a Nobel Prize? No, not at all.
(Donโt let me stop you though. ๐)
Also, it’s personal โ you donโt have to share it with anyone. ๐คซ
And here’s the kicker: purpose works regardless of your worldview, religion, or lack thereof. It’s about the impact you want to make – for yourself and others.
What Problems And Questions From My Team Should I Take On – And What Not?
Who else has felt the overwhelming urge to solve every problem that lands on their desk?
It’s a common trap for new managers, feeling like you need to be the hero.
Imagine walking around with a big backpack. ๐
Every time your team comes to you with a problem, you have a choice โ do you accept the problem and add it to your backpack, or not?
Put too much in your backpack, and you wonโt be able to move anymore.
Great leadership isn’t about how many problems you can solve; it’s about how many problems you can teach your team to solve.
๐ Hereโs a quick tip: Think of yourself as a guide rather than a fixer.
Next time a direct report comes to you with an issue, ask, “What part of this can you handle, and what do you need my help with? What solution have you considered?โ.
This empowers them and helps you prioritize your own workload.
๐ If you’re unsure whether to take on a problem, consider if it aligns with your key responsibilities. If it doesn’t, it’s likely not yours to solve.
Coaching your team to handle challenges not only lightens your load but also builds their confidence and skills.
This fosters a culture of problem-solving, innovation, and ownership.
Lastly, at a later moment, check-in and reflect with your team around problems you asked them to solve themselves, to build trust and enhance learning.
The Importance Of Taking Regular Breaks And Making Small Changes In Your Environment
Yesterday, something amazing happened in Amsterdam.
After months of cold and rain, suddenly the mercury hit 18 degrees โ very rare for a day in March. ๐
This beautiful weather had a remarkable effect โ it completely changed the city’s vibe. People were smiling more, looked happier, and seemed more energetic.
It reminded me of how much a change in environment can impact your mood.
I often see the same during coaching, where even moving to a new spot in the room can change your mood, perspective or feelings.
Let’s connect this to how many of our days look; spending hours behind screens.
Apparently, and I only stumbled upon this mind-blowing fact recently: Zoom didnโt exist 20,000 years ago ( ๐ฒ!!).
Our brains havenโt yet evolved to deal with Zoom-a-thons.
What can you do?
Create several of these mini-spring moments throughout your day.
Every few hours, go for a short walk outside.
Or put on your favorite song and dance.
Or do some stretching.
Anything that gets your body moving.
These changes in the environment work like resets for your brain.
As the picture below shows: your brain needs to recharge – you can’t win all those Nobel prizes on an empty battery.
(The test person at the bottom, the one whose brain doesn’t look microwaved, took short breaks between calls.)

Training, Mentoring And Coaching – When To Use What?
Letโs look at one tool from the leadership toolkit: training, mentoring and coaching your team. ๐
Demystifying the use of ๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด, ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด, and ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด.
All three are essential skills for any manager.
Use the right skill at the right time to maximize your teamโs development.
So, when to use what?
๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด: ๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ป๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ป๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ธ๐ถ๐น๐น๐ ๐
Perfect for beginners, training is directive and instructional, focusing on knowledge transfer to lay a solid skill foundation. Usually short-term.
“๐๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ช๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ, ๐โ๐ญ๐ญ ๐ต๐ฆ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐, ๐ , ๐ก.โ
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๐๐ช๐ฑ: verify, in a supportive, non-controlling way, if the training was successful and the desired skills were learned.
๐ ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด: ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ด๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐งญ
Suited for mid-level to senior team members, mentoring offers guidance and wisdom from personal experience. Guide your team members on their professional journey. Longer term.
“๐๐ณ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐บ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ, ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ’๐ด ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ ๐ต๐ข๐ค๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ช๐ฎ๐ช๐ญ๐ข๐ณ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ๐ด. ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ด๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐จ๐ช๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐ค๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฌ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ?”
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๐๐ช๐ฑ: the relationship is essential in mentoring – take a genuine interest in your mentee.
๐๐ผ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด: ๐ฃ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ณ๐ฒ๐๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ฎ๐น ๐ด๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐๐ต ๐
Ideal for more senior team members, coaching is an equal partnership that promotes self-discovery and maximizes their potential. No advice or instructions are given.
Through questions, help your coachee discover what they want, and how theyโll get there. Only effective if coachee is motivated to be coached.
“๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข๐ช๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ฒ๐ถ๐ข๐ณ๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐จ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ข๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฎ?”
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๐๐ช๐ฑ: a good coach is a good listener โ practice active listening and ask open-ended questions.
Every team member, regardless of their role or seniority, might find value in training, mentoring, or coaching, tailored to their unique needs at different times.
Which of the three did you benefit the most from in your career?
Completing My 5-Month Coaching Training
Using the words โ๐โ๐ฎ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ณ๐ช๐ญ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐น๐ค๐ช๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆโ in 2024 feels a bit like using a fax machine, but itโs how I feel right now.
Five months after starting, I completed the Co-Active Intermediate coaching training last weekend.
Iโm now trained in Co-Active Training Institute‘s effective and transformative Co-Active coaching model and ready to start coaching professionally!
A quote I heard during that weekend stayed with me:
“๐ ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ธ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ด, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ช๐ง๐ฆ ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ณ๐ต๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ป๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฆ.”
Five months ago, I left a decade-long career and the safety that comes with it, to start this adventure.
Looking back, this marked the beginning of my ‘second life’ โ committed to helping others live happier and more fulfilling lives. And so far, I have loved every step of it.
I rediscovered my creativity, intuition, and sense of purpose. And learned that fear is just a feeling! Doing something scary for me feels liberating.
The phrase โmaking the most out of lifeโ always seemed clichรฉ, until I realized itโs extremely valuable advice. And one of the things coaches help with.
A big thank-you to everyone who supported me the last 5 months, to my fellow coaches for sharing your experiences, to my Co-Active peers for your inspiration, and particularly to those Iโve coached for your openness and trust.
Interested in more happiness, balance, growth and fulfillment in life? Feel free to reach out; I’d love to discuss this further.
Whatโs next? I’m trained, energized, and ready to begin. Stay tuned for next week’s update on how I plan to transform clichรฉs into realities, one coaching session at a time.
