How to Lead Team Meetings Better: Stop Wasting Time

David Buirs | Leadership & Executive Coach

Why Your Meetings Always Run to the Last Minute

David Buirs is a leadership and executive coach in Amsterdam. In this article you learn how to lead team meetings as a manager: how to give a meeting a clear goal, how to steer it, and how to give people their time back. With practical tips for managers whose days drain away in meetings.

Look at your calendar today. A 60-minute meeting. How long did it take? Exactly 60 minutes.

That is how it almost always goes. A conversation booked for an hour fills that hour. People keep talking until the time runs out. The agenda stretches to fit whatever room you give it.

I work with a lot of managers whose days drain away in meetings. Back-to-back, with no moment to think. By the end of the day the real work hasn't started yet. Sound familiar?

Here is what I have learned. Most meetings run over for one simple reason. Nobody is leading them.

A Meeting Without a Goal Is a Meeting Without an End

Before you send an invite, ask yourself one question. What needs to be different by the end of this conversation?

There are roughly three kinds of meetings. It helps to know which one you are running.

The first is a decision. There is a choice on the table and it has to be made. The second is informing. You share something the team needs to know. The third is aligning or brainstorming. You need input from the group to move forward.

Many meetings fail because they mix these types up. You think you are coming to inform. Halfway through, a discussion breaks out as if there is still something to decide. Then you are stuck.

A good agenda names the type. "Today we decide on the new planning." That reads differently from "Let's discuss the planning." The first has an endpoint. The second can go on forever.

No agenda, no meeting. Or as I used to tell my teams: no agenda, no attenda. An invite comes in without a goal? Ask about it, kindly. "What do we want to walk away with?" That one question often saves the whole hour.

Steering Is Your Job

If you call the meeting, you are the one running it. You are responsible for the time of everyone in the room. Do the math. Eight people, one hour. That is a full working day of human attention you are managing.

Steering feels uncomfortable for many managers. You don't want to cut anyone off. You want to be liked. So you let the meeting run its own course. You watch a quick update turn into a ten-minute story.

A simple agreement helps here. At the start of the meeting, ask the group this: "May I interrupt if we drift off the agenda?"

Everyone says yes. Nobody says no to that question. And now you have permission. When the conversation drifts, you steer it back, calmly. "Good point, but this is outside our goal for today. Shall we pick it up separately?"

The surprising part: the group appreciates this enormously. People don't want to waste an hour. They are often waiting for someone with the nerve to steer. By interrupting, you protect the time. And you protect the people who would otherwise watch their afternoon disappear in silence.

Stop on Time, Even When There Is Time Left

Here comes the part almost nobody does. Is the agenda done after forty minutes? Then the meeting is over. You don't have to fill the hour.

Give people those twenty minutes back. Say it out loud. "We're done, you've got twenty minutes back." The effect is bigger than you think. You show that you respect their time. And you break the habit of time filling itself.

We simply have too many meetings, and most of them run too long. Research by Atlassian shows how many hours a week vanish into meetings nobody needed. Every half hour you give back goes to the work people were actually hired for.

Not Everyone Needs to Be There

Another habit that gives back a lot of time. Give people the option to skip, or to leave once their part is over.

It feels rude. But there are few things more tedious than half an hour of half-listening to a discussion between colleagues you add nothing to. That time is just gone.

So say it explicitly. "Point three is for the whole team, then we get into the technical side with just the developers." Whoever isn't needed can go. If it gets abused, you address that. That is a separate conversation, not a reason to keep holding everyone hostage.

Ask the Quiet People What They Think

One more thing. In every meeting a few voices dominate. Often they are the people who talk most easily, while the sharpest ideas stay unspoken.

The introverted team members often sit on good observations they hold back. They need time to think. The room is already taken up by others.

As the person running the meeting, you can solve this. Ask them directly. "Sara, you have a lot of experience with this. How do you see it?" Give them a moment. That is often where the insight comes from that moves the whole discussion forward.

This is a kind of leadership that has little to do with power. You create space so the best ideas surface, regardless of who has them.

To Close

Leading meetings better starts with realizing that time is your real scarcity. A clear goal, the right type, and someone with the nerve to steer. That is enough to bring an hour of corporate theater down to twenty minutes that lead somewhere.

There is something underneath it too. Leading meetings well earns you respect. People notice who protects their time and who lets it slide. The manager who steers firmly and kindly builds quiet authority that reaches far beyond that one meeting.

With the leaders I coach, I work on the technique of steering. But also on the layer beneath it. The patterns that make you let someone talk too long. The fear of really steering a conversation, because you worry about coming across as blunt. That fear often sits deeper than the meeting itself. That is exactly the kind of theme I work on in my management coaching. We practice it concretely, in the situations you run into. For leaders at director level, coaching for executives is a logical deepening of that same work.

Want to anchor this in a whole team rather than one person? Then a leadership training for the entire group is a logical step.

Curious whether this fits your situation? Plan your free introduction here. Zero obligation, just a good conversation.

How to Make Meetings More Effective?

Itโ€™s 13:58.
Youโ€™ve just spent 58 minutes nodding, bouncing ideas, feeling like โ€œ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ.โ€

Then someone says:
โ€œ๐˜š๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜บ, ๐˜โ€™๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ, ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ โ€” ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญโ€

๐—–๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ธ.
๐—ฆ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.
You stare at your screen, slightly dazed, mildly irritated, already bracing for the next one.
And it hits you:
๐——๐—ถ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด?
Whoโ€™s doing what? By when?

Weโ€™ve all been there many times.

It wasnโ€™t really a meeting.
It was a conversation with a calendar invite.
And conversations โ€” without clarity โ€” donโ€™t drive results.

Hereโ€™s the fix:

๐Ÿ“Œ In the last 3 minutes, ask:

  1. ๐™’๐™๐™ค is doing something?
  2. ๐™’๐™๐™–๐™ฉ exactly are they doing?
  3. ๐˜ฝ๐™ฎ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™š๐™ฃ will it be done?

Then start your next meeting by checking in on those three.

When meetings end with ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ,
you’ll need fewer of them โ€” and get more done.

And the holy grail?
You might even get to say the sexiest line in corporate life:
โ€œ๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜บ, ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ญ๐˜บ.โ€

You don’t even have to be the host.
Just say:
โ€œ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜บ, ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆโ€™๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ, ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ฑ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ?โ€

Try it once. Your future self will thank you.

Make Your Meetings Great – And Save Time And Energy

Ever wondered why your meetings rarely end before their scheduled end time?

*๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ฒ*

*๐——๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—บ-๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น๐—น*

Most of us love to talk!

Ok, that probably didnโ€™t come as a surprise.

While talking builds connection, having days full of long calls depletes our energy.

And weโ€™re all busy, sometimes overworked.

We spend so much time in calls,
calls that donโ€™t end when they served their purpose.

They end when the time is up. Or after.

Then we rush to the next one, skipping lunch, feeling stressed.

How can we do this better?

As a team, take ownership of your time and productivity, together.

I created a team agreement for you that can help you.

Give it a try. Let me know how many free hours you gained this month!

See -Free Downloads – for the document.

How To Have Effective 1:1’s With Your Team Members

Remember those 30-minute one-on-one meetings that felt more like a cozy chat than a productive meeting? We laughed, we talked, but often missed the key points.

It turns out, most managers, myself included, learned to conduct effective 1:1s more through slow experience than quick training.

Good 1:1s meet both the work and personal needs of your team.

Here’s how to make yours better:

1. ๐—–๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ธ-๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น-๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด: Be genuinely curious and caring about how your direct reports are doing. Example questions: “How did you feel this week?” “What was your best moment?” “How has your week been?”

2. ๐—จ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—น ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐Ÿญ:๐Ÿญ๐˜€: Tools like Asana, Jira, or even Google Sheets are great to track your meetings. Both you and your team member should add updates and agenda points, and review those, before the meeting.

3. ๐—ž๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ด๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜: Follow a set agenda. Cover open topics, action items, blockers, questions and successes. Save your valuable meeting time for discussion – you can share regular updates through the online tool.

4. ๐—ฃ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฐ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€: Starting on time and avoiding cancellations shows respect. It signals to your team you value their time.

5. ๐—™๐—ผ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐˜‚๐—ฝ: If you promise to take an action, update your team on the progress. Itโ€™s a great way to build trust. Ask the same from your team.

6. ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด: For leaders, information is gold. The leader that listens well has a big advantage. Listening also makes your team feel heard and cared about. (We all overestimate our ability to listen.)

7. ๐—”๐˜€๐—ธ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€: Encourage them to think and reflect about their week. Ask about highlights and challenges. Instead of giving your ideal solution right away, ask them what they think first. This supports growth and learning.

Using these tips, you can turn 1:1s from simple chats into powerful tools for growth and success.